If you’re like me who don’t mind spending time at home, you probably have lots of ideas to celebrate Valentine’s day with yourself!
However, as humans, we crave connection and belongingness. It’s okay if you feel lonely or bored being with yourself this quarantined V-day, I got you!
If you would Google “how to date yourself on valentine’s day”, you’ll probably see tons of results and ideas like go to spa, go on a shopping trip, buy yourself a flower, etc.
But what if we just want to have fun in the comfort of our home, and of course, celebrate Valentine’s day without spending!
Looking for that? Well, lucky for you because I’m here to give you ideas on how to date yourself without spending even a single penny!
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But first…
Be Intentional.
Maybe you’ve been spending time on your own since the beginning of quarantine but I want you to be intentional this time and enjoy being with yourself.
Take this time to slow down, calm down, and breathe.
Set goals and have the objective in mind that this day: you will focus on yourself.
Not for others. Not for your Facebook friends to like and share, and not for your Instagram followers to see. It must be for you.
Valentine’s day is not always for couples. It can also be for you to appreciate moments with yourself.
That’s how you can celebrate and date yourself this Valentine’s day.
Once you learned how to be intentional, you’re ready to enjoy these fun ideas I got for you! Let’s get it started!
How to Date Yourself on Valentine's Day
in 5 Ways
Here are some fun and free ways to have quality time with yourself this Valentine’s day:
1. Write a gratitude letter.
The first one that I suggest for you to do this Valentine’s day is really no-nonsense stuff, just… express gratitude.
If you know me, you know that I am a huge fan of gratitude journaling. It’s not just because appreciating things in our life is a must, but it also has great impacts on your mental health and your brain.
One surprising study I read about gratitude showed how this works to improve our mental health.
Researchers discovered that the study participants who wrote gratitude letters had significantly better mental health after 12 weeks of their writing exercise.
They literally conducted an fMRI scanning to the participants who had undergone the gratitude writing exercise and to those who did not, as well.
The result had shown greater activation in the medial prefrontal cortex when the person experienced gratitude.
That said, gratitude really has a significant impact on our brain that will improve our mental health.
This is the reason why I highly recommend you to start writing a gratitude letter this Valentine’s Day (or whenever you want to) as a date with yourself.
You can write for yourself or for someone you love and send it to them, but you can also just keep it. According to the said study, gratitude helps even if you don’t share it.
Clearly, what’s important is the experience.
However, keep in mind that gratitude’s benefits take time. You may want to do it regularly for your improvement.
So, pull out a piece of paper or grab your journal and get started this Valentine’s day!
2. Reread your books (or read all your unread books!)

My second suggestion to celebrate Valentine’s day without spending might not apply to everyone. But, seriously, if you’re a bookworm, this is a great time to be on your bed all day and read books!
Shout out to book lovers who’ve been buying books online but never had time to read them. (Count me in!)
If you don’t have books to read, but you love the idea of reading books on Valentine’s day, it’s okay!
You can always buy ebooks or physical books in bookstores, just follow the rules and regulations to prevent spreading COVID. Because, you know, we also want safe and COVID-free Valentine’s day.
3. Make a Homemade Facial Mask

Skincare is also an act of self-love and that’s why making homemade facial masks is a lovely idea to do this Valentine’s day!
If you’ve been applying face masks regularly as your skincare routine, you know how amazing it is to our skin.
Of course, you can always buy your favorite facial masks, or go to a local spa, but why not try to make and apply a homemade mask this time?
It’s easy, and you don’t have to spend money. That’s what we’re talking about!
Oatmeal facial mask is my favorite homemade face mask. It’s so easy to make, and it exfoliates your skin, removes excess oil and helps treat acne!
Here’s a recipe of homemade oatmeal facial mask:
- ½ cup of hot water
- ⅓ cup oatmeal
- 2 tablespoons plain yoghurt
- 2 tablespoons of honey
- 1 egg white
Mix it all together. Let it sit for 10-15 minutes, maybe watch Netflix or read a book, relax and then rinse with warm water.
There you go! You just treat your skin with a gentle and non-toxic face mask. Plus, you have your quality time with yourself!
4. Journal about your ideal day

This one’s not only for Valentine’s day. Journaling is always there for you, Valentine’s Day or not!
If you haven’t started yet, or you’re an avid journaler, this is the day to explore more about journaling!
Write what is your perfect day or what your celebration of Valentine’s day would be like?
What is one word that will describe your day? Or write about your intention for the whole day!
If you need a tool to start journaling today, check out the Exploration Digital Guided Journal! With 365 journal prompts for self-discovery, you’ll learn to create a deeper connection with yourself step by step each day. It’s a lovely gift for yourself! Click here to learn more.
5. Create a vision board
My last suggestion is the most fun way to spend Valentine’s Day with yourself, and one of my favorite things to do; creating a vision board!
Have you created a vision board at the beginning of the new year? If you haven’t done it yet, then this is the perfect time to do it!
In case you don’t know, a vision board or dream board is a collection of images and affirmations of your dreams and desires.
It serves as your inspiration and motivation. As humans, we are drawn by visuals. We are more likely to strive if we visualize our dreams. So if you have big dreams that you really want to pursue, let’s create a vision board for that!
Here’s my full tutorial on creating a vision board using my absolute favorite, Canva! Click here to watch or read the article.
Final Thoughts About "Dating Yourself"
Spending time with yourself can be a little bit scary, lonely, and boring. I knew it because I’ve been terrified of being alone with myself. But now, I cherish it because that’s the only moment to assess myself, my emotions, and feelings.
If you’re afraid to be alone, it’s okay. Breathe deep and take courage. I promise you, it’s going to be worth it.
I hope these tips and ideas on celebrating Valentine’s day will help you be comfortable with yourself and get to know yourself even more.
You don’t have to spend money going to a luxurious spa or a trip anywhere. These ideas proved that you can definitely celebrate Valentine’s day without spending and even on your own!
What do you think is the perfect idea to spend quality time with yourself this Valentine’s day?
I hope you enjoyed this blog post! If you need a tool to help you start journaling today, don’t forget to checkout the Exploration Digital Guided Journal!
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Jocelyn is a coffee lover who believes that a bad day with coffee is better than a good day without it. You can find her obsessing over stationery, hanging out with her cat, or singing her favorite Taylor Swift songs.